I am, again, at crossroads with this blog.
On one hand, I like sharing what I have learned, so the journey to learn to dance would be easier for others. On the other hand, I am deeply frustrated and disillusioned about how much you can actually transmit about dancing by written text.
Human psyche is just constructed that way. It seems we aim for stability in our world views. This is natural — otherwise we would hemming and hawing all the time. But the side effect of the stability is that we tend to bend the evidence so that it supports what we already believe. Cognitive dissonance is old news to anybody who knows anything about psychology.
It means that every time we read something in the internet, we either agree or disagree with it. If we agree, we use it as evidence to strengthen our prior belief. We tend to seek the kind of information we agree with. And even when we accidentally read something we disagree with, we tend to figure out ways to discredit it, and again strengthen our prior belief, instead of incorporating the information to our world view. Because all world views are ultimately limited, reading something actually hurts us, instead of helping, because we hold to our dear limited beliefs even more.
The only way to overcome this stasis of prior belief is through bitter, repeated experience. Most of us does not learn from the first time, so it depends on personality how many times we need to repeat the lesson.
Furthermore, if we read something that somehow overcomes the built-in resistances to change, we have only learned about the thing theoretically. Then we think we know how it goes, so we stop learning about it.
Now we come to the worst problem with internet advice. Learning about something before we have any experience, is how we form the original belief, which is probably very wrong.
So reading advice on internet not only hurts us, but blocks the natural remedy that would cure the wound created by this hurt. And the wound is so bad that it actually gets worse over time.
I guess it applies to this blog post too.